Writing for Kids: A Lonely Journey

There are plenty of people who talk about writing but have trouble sitting down to do it. But here, I’m talking about the ones who have a hard time tearing themselves away. 

You know who you are. It looks something like this:

• Exercise: You plan to go to a 1:30 yoga class. You’re at your computer, watching the clock and reworking a scene you can’t seem to get right. But you’re close. Now it’s 1:15, and since it’s too late to make it to yoga anyway…
• Interruptions: You’re at your computer again. (When are you not at your computer?) You son needs a ride to practice. It’s time to start dinner. The phone rings, and you let it roll over. You’ve almost got it, but the outside world keeps driving you crazy.
• Obsessing: Your fictional construct becomes more interesting than your real one. Even when you take breaks—or a whole day off—the transition from what you’re writing to what you’re living is never complete. You carry with you a chronic feeling of anxiety, one that can only be eased by sitting back down to write.

Whether you’re a published author or writing for yourself, if you’re falling prey to this type of writers’ malady, it’s something you need to take care of. Otherwise, you’re at risk of losing your life to your passion.

First of all, get used to the idea that for some reason, your time on this planet has got to be about writing. Phrases, characters and stories are forever populating your head. Organizing them on a page is the only way to deal with this tsunami of thought that won’t leave you alone.

But it doesn’t have to ruin your relationships. Or your body. Or your life as a ‘normal’ person.

The single most valuable tool for managing a writer’s life is a calendar. Put blocks of time on your calendar for writing and make sure to leave the job at quittin’ time.

Ironically, scheduling your time on the computer will help you write better stuff. If we were all to be honest with ourselves, we would have to admit that our muses get tired after a few hours. And so do our bodies.

If there is anyone in your life that undermines the time you spend in front of the screen, your writer’s calendar also sends the message that writing is important to you. There is nothing like a schedule to demonstrate that writing is a priority.

Figure out what time of day and days of the week are your most productive writing time and block out as many time slots as you need.

Beyond scheduling your time, it’s important to identify your personal triggers and plant safeguards to help you overcome them.

Let’s look at the list we spoke of earlier:

Exercise: The best way to make sure you get to that 1:30 yoga class is to put on your yoga clothes, get your mat ready and fill your water bottle before you sit down to write. Part of stopping your work to exercise is the unpalatable list of things you need to do before you even get out the door. Get them all done up front. At 1:15, grab your stuff and go.

Interruptions: You can seriously reduce interruptions by posting your writing calendar so that everybody who needs your services will know when they are allowed to start bugging you. (An added bonus is that some of those people might learn to become less needy.) And now that you’re scheduling your writing, the mandatory stuff will get done (dinner, homework etc.), since your writing time no longer overlaps with the critical things you need to do.

Obsessing: How do you stop obsessing about your latest masterpiece? This may be the toughest one of all. But not unlike dealing with an addiction, changing this habit will take some discipline. Here are some ideas that can help you with this:

-Meditation can help you train your brain to respond better to the moment at hand.

-You can perform a ritual when you finish writing: Walk through an imaginary portal and leave your story behind to be picked up later.

-Practice presence. Notice the way the light is coming through the window, the sound of your children carrying on or the feel of grass on your feet.

If your writing is robbing you of your life, you (and the people who care about you) will begin to resent it. Whatever your triggers are, identify them. Put some sort of support network in place to help you change your automatic responses.

There is a prevalent myth that says artists must be tortured. Not true. Anyone can be tortured. And anyone can be free, too, it they put their minds to it.