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BOYS WHO HATE TO READ AND THE PARENTS WHO WORRY ABOUT THEM

by | Sep 26, 2023

Not all boys hate to read. But a lot do, and those are the ones we’re talking about here. If a middle-grade boy is a reluctant reader, he’s setting himself up for a lifetime of challenges he’d be better off without. [Granted, some girls hate to read, too. But far fewer. According to a 2016 Scholastic Survey of over 2000 children, only 52% of boys (vs. 72% of girls) said they liked reading books over the summer.]

Let’s face it. Poor readers stress about school, tend to have lower confidence outside of school, and often grow up with the intention of quitting their education as soon as they can.

And where does that leave them?

If you’re a parent with a boy who doesn’t like to read, you’re probably desperately seeking ways to inspire him to pick up a book. See below for some ideas on how to get your boy excited about reading.

Start with the obvious

What does your son like to do? Is he a baseball fan? Does he like to cook? Is he into dinosaurs, bugs, or spaceships? Surround him with books about his favorite topics. There’s no need to insist on variety! If he only wants to read about World War II military strategy, let him. I know one fourth-grade boy who only wanted to read about that, and he exhausted the supply of books on military history at the local library. He also became a strong reader with exceptional comprehension skills.

One mom told me her reluctant reader only liked books with talking animals. They weren’t easy to find, but she worked hard to keep him in a steady supply until he became an independent reader. If your son likes one book, find out why and hunt down more of the same.

If your boy likes comic books, take regular trips to the comic book store. Try a subscription to a magazine; the stories are short, with lots of pictures. Video game fanatics might be more willing to read stories online; try downloading books for your gamer to read on his computer or on a Kindle. Make your boy’s reading experience ‘all about him,’ and you’ll get a much better response.

Teaching your child to read this summer? Try our easy online phonics program!!


Stoop to bribery

Make a trade. If your son reads a book, plan a reward that relates to the book. If he finishes a book on baseball, take him to a baseball game. If the book is a fictional account of an historic event, take him to a site where he can learn more about what really happened. And if he reads a book about two kids going on an adventure and getting in trouble, let him set up a tent in the back yard and have a sleepover.

One great way to encourage your son to read is to let him watch movies that are based on the book–after he’s read the book.  There are some great books for kids that were made into movies:

  • Harry Potter (There are eight of these. This could keep your son reading all year.)
  • The Narnia Series
  • Star Trek
  • Star Wars
  • The Lightning Thief (And other Percy Jackson and the Olympians novels)
  • A Series of Unfortunate Events
  • Eragon
  • The Wizard of Oz
  • The Golden Compass
  • Charlie and the Chocolate Factory
  • The Fault in Our Stars
  • Charlotte’s Web
  • Holes

Break your reading challenge into manageable chunks, and your son will be more likely to get through the whole book. For example, give him a gold star when he finishes a chapter. That way, he can see tangible results as he works toward his goal.

One caveat: Be careful not to make the experience punitive by constantly reminding him that he doesn’t get the prize if he doesn’t read the book. Let him be in charge of his own destiny. If he chooses to forgo the prize, let that be up to him.

Go back a few years

Reading grade level material is hard work for a reluctant reader. Rather than making your son struggle through books that other fifth graders are reading, go back down to fourth grade. Find easier books that your child might like. Or even two grade levels below–whatever it takes for your son to enjoy what he’s reading.

If your son is willing to keep his nose in a book for younger children, he will get all the practice he needs, simply because he is reading. Reading for enjoyment will advance his skills faster than powering through a book that’s too hard for him. After all, that’s how his classmates became good readers–mastering easy books and then moving on to harder ones. What you’re giving your late bloomer is the gift of taking all the time he needs.

And finally, don’t stop reading aloud. Choose books you think your son could read by himself. Spend time reading to him before he goes to bed, but stop when you get to the most exciting part. Lay the book on his nightstand and let him know that it’s now time for lights out. Except, of course, if he wants to finish the chapter on his own.

Leave a comment! Is your boy a reluctant reader? Share your own stories about what worked for you.

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About Mary Follin

Mary is the author of TEACH YOUR CHILD TO READ and ETHYR, winner of the Moonbeam Children's Book Award and the Gertrude Warner Book Award. She is mom to two grown sons and enjoys sharing her more seasoned perspective  with parents of younger children. 

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